Self-care is so so important, and I really realized this after becoming a mama. Most of the time we mamas let ourselves become last priority, and don’t take care of ourselves like we should. We get overwhelmed and exhausted which can lead to us becoming irritable and unpleasant to be around. We need to make sure we are taking care of ourselves so that we can better take care of our families.
Mamas need breaks. Mamas need a chance to refuel and recharge. Mamas need alone time. You should not feel guilty for taking time to take care of yourself. Taking time to recharge your batteries allows you to be a better wife and mother. Remember mamas, you cannot pour from an empty cup!
How are you taking care of yourself mentally, physically, spiritually, and emotionally? When I used to think of self-care, my first thought would be I just don’t have the time. But seriously, let’s stop making excuses and make the time. Schedule it on your calendar if you have to. Get up early before everyone else. Make your schedule work for you.
Some ways to fill up your cup:
As wives and mamas, we often have so many ideas and thoughts going through our head at any given moment. Many times this can make us feel frazzled and overwhelmed at the thought of too much stuff needing to be done. When we get like that, we definitely need some mental clarity. Sometimes we just need to get our thoughts out so that we can think more clearly. Here are a few ways to do that.
Brain Dump– Grab a pen and a piece of paper, go to a quiet spot, and just write whatever comes to mind. Once you are finished getting everything out on paper, go through what you wrote and make lists. Are the things that were overwhelming you things that are urgent or things that can wait. Prioritize what needs to be done and then schedule the rest for later.
Start a Journal-A journal is a great way to reflect on your day. What did you accomplish? What didn’t you like? What do you want to do better tomorrow? Get those thoughts out so you can start the next day with a clear vision.
This is at the top of my list. I can definitely tell a huge difference in my life when I am intentional with spending daily time with God. My favorite time to read my Bible or devotion is early in the morning before anyone else gets up. The house is quiet and peaceful. I can enjoy a cup of coffee and start the day right.
Quiet Time– Taking that time to read your Bible or a devotion is so important in your walk with God. Studying God’s word makes us so much better equipped to take on whatever life throws at us.
Prayer-Prayer is so powerful, and you can do it at any time or place during the day. One of my favorite books that I listed in my Book Recommendations blog post, is the Power of a Praying Wife. I try to read a chapter every day to pray for my husband and the different areas of his life. There is also a Power of a Praying Parent book that is great. It also helps to pray out loud sometimes. I like to do this on my morning commute to work. It helps to get your thoughts and concerns out to God, and pray for the wisdom to make right decisions for your family.
It is so important that we take care of our bodies. Eating right can make you feel so much better, and give you the energy you need to take on the day. It is hard to enjoy the mom life when you are exhausted every day, so make sure you are doing something about it.
Meal Replacement- One simple change that can make a big difference is replacing one meal a day with a protein shake. I recommend using a pea protein powder. Whey protein is harder to digest and can make you bloated. I use Arbonne Protein Shake Mix. They have chocolate and vanilla, and both are so delicious. I’ll share some of my favorite shake recipes in an upcoming blog post.
Eating Clean– Eating whole foods and avoiding the processed stuff can make a world of difference. Find a clean eating program that works for you. You will be amazed at how good you will feel, and how much energy you will gain when you eat better. And added bonus, you will lose weight too! I finally got down to below my pre-pregnancy weight by following the Arbonne 30 Days to Healthy Living Program. It incorporates the protein powder I mentioned above along with Energy Fizz Sticks, Detox Tea, a 7-day Cleanse, and digestion plus (pre/pro-biotic). It was a game changer for me! You get to join a FB group with a bunch of other ladies and men who are doing the program with you, and are given lots of recipes and coaching the whole time.
Working Out-Getting your heart rate up is so important for your overall wellness. Start with a walk or a short in-home workout routine, and then you can gradually work your way up to more. Working out can give you more energy, and help you sleep better.
Here are several other ideas for physical self-care: skincare routine, chiropractic care, therapeutic massage, the list goes on.
As women, we tend to be a lot more emotional by nature. It’s so important to take our emotional health into consideration when determining a self-care routine. I went through a period of time when I was a really negative person. Being that way can really mess with your emotions and make you unpleasant to be around. Here are a few ideas to help you be more positive.
List of things you are thankful for-Sit down and write a list of all the things you are grateful for. Make it an on-going list that you continue to add to. Take time to read it any time you need a reminder to be positive and thankful.
Choose Joy– So many times we blame our circumstances for our negativity, but really we can choose to be positive no matter what. Be intentional with your thoughts and attitude. Don’t let the little things that don’t matter bother you. Don’t let what other people think change who we are. It’s all about mindset, so take control of it.
Those are just a few ideas of self-care. Find what gets you recharged, and set a routine. Read some personal development books, and continue to grow as a wife and mama. I promise you will quickly notice a difference in your outlook on life, and how you feel.
I would love to hear about your self-care routines, so comment below.