The second verse in Proverbs 31 that describes the good wife is verse 11. The verse says: “Her husband has full confidence in her and lacks nothing of value.” When I think of having full confidence in someone, I think of trusting them completely. Trusting their decision making skills. Trusting their ability to do what needs to be done. Trusting them to be faithful. Trusting them to be open and honest. Trusting them to communicate effectively.
Does your husband trust you? Does he have full confidence in you? Can he trust you to make wise decisions for your family? Can he trust you to manage money wisely and not overspend? Can he trust you to raise your children and to be a role model for them? Can he trust you to be there for him in good times and in bad?
Part of your husband having full confidence in you includes that you take your marriage vows seriously. When you said your wedding vows, you were vowing to your husband and before God. That is something that shouldn’t be taken lightly. Marriage is hard. It takes work, dedication, selflessness, and forgiveness. Marriage is not about what your husband does or doesn’t do for you. You have to focus on your actions and what you are putting into the marriage.
When your marriage goes through a rough patch, that is when we need to put in more effort and take our problems to God. When things get tough, its time to put in more work, not bail out. (For the record, I am not saying to stay with someone who is physically abusing you. That is a time to get away, get help, and pray for God to change your husband.)
A big part of marriage is forgiveness and choosing to love that person even when you really don’t like them at the moment. It is not about feelings and emotions. It’s about being committed to them through everything, good or bad.
Pray for God to give you wisdom to make right decisions for you and your family. If you know you are lacking in a certain area, make an effort to set some goals and improve. Gaining your husband’s full confidence is something we should strive for as wives. You may feel that your husband is hard to please or that you mess up too much. It’s ok! Focus on making progress rather than being perfect.
Strength & Dignity Part 2 action item:
Print or write out a copy of your marriage vows. Read them and reflect on them. Keep the copy in a place where you will see it often.
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