Strength & Dignity: A Proverbs 31 Woman {Part 17}

In part 17 of this series, we look at verse 26.  The verse says: She speaks with wisdom, and faithful instruction is on her tongue.  One of the hardest things to do is to control your tongue and the things you say.  Words are powerful.  Words matter.  We must remember to speak life over others.  

A few different areas to think about when it comes to the words that come out of our mouths:

Do you speak negatively about others? It is so easy to get caught up in the latest gossip, especially when you live in a small town.  Many times we speak negatively about other people in order to feel better about our own lives.  I know I have been guilty of this.  Our negative words can hurt other people, but also make you mentally exhausting to be around.  Is your negativity bringing other people down with you?  We should be building people up, not tearing them down.

Do you speak negatively about yourself?  Speaking negatively about yourself can really weigh on you mentally and emotionally.   This stems from your mindset and what you think about yourself as well.  Our thoughts eventually come out of our mouths. Speak words of affirmation about yourself.  Believe in yourself.  You are capable of more than you think.

Do you speak negatively about your husband?  We talked about this in a previous post, but make sure you are encouraging your husband and building him up.  He is not perfect and neither are you.  Don’t talk negatively about him to your friends.  You wouldn’t want him to do the same to you.

Do you speak negatively about your children?  I’m sure your first thought is that you would never say anything negative about your children.  Have you ever talked about how difficult your child is?  Do you say those things in front of them?  They may start to feel like a burden when they hear you speak about their bad behavior.  Remember that children are learning and growing they can’t get everything right at once.

Do you speak negatively to people on the internet?  It can be so much easier to comment on things on social media that are rude or hurtful because you might not know the other person and may never meet them.  You might feel that you have the right to speak what you want from behind a computer or phone screen.  Hold your tongue (or your fingers in this case) and just don’t say anything.  Remember the old saying: if you don’t have anything nice to say, then don’t say anything at all.  What you type online can really hurt someone, even if you don’t realize it.

We should strive to say (or type) encouraging words that lift others up.  Be a positive, encouraging woman that others love to be around.  I know that the tongue can be one of the hardest things to control, but let’s strive to careful and intentional of what comes out of our mouths.


Strength & Dignity Part 17 action item:

Next time you find yourself in conversation with a friend, be intentional about saying good things about other people.




Kelly Johnson
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